I tell parents the best way to talk to kids about this is through the swimsuit lesson, Merryn said. Families pressuring loved ones to stay quiet is not uncommon, but as I often like to tell survivors, by speaking up you are not only helping yourself heal; you will help save other children from experiencing this same horror at the hands of their abuser. Soon it was no longer our secret and I was behind a different closed door not the one to a bedroom, a bathroom, basement, or closet but this time into a colorful room with a small table and bright light shinning through the skylight. Call it what it is: penis and vagina.. How I wondered am I suppose to tell this stranger my pain when I am too ashamed to even talk in detail with my parents about it. As the abuse continued, and as she was forced to see her abuser over and over again in social situations, she struggled with . I was a senior in high school when I published my first book, my childhood diary where I kept my secrets of abuse with my cousin locked away. Merryn saidif parents are not comfortable, the bill allows parents toopt their kids out of the education. She is the author of Bailey, No Ordinary Cat, Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, and An Unimaginable Act. Young children tend to hear a lot of messages about avoiding interactions with people they don't know, when in reality they are far more likely to face harm from a relative or family friend. We need to start teaching kids this, she said. I will come get you, I know where you live, Erin recalled. I found hope and healing there and people that believed me. Hes grown into quite the little man and doesnt want me near the bathroom when he showers or gets dressed and I respect that. So before CAC's a child brought to a police station could be filled with anxiety and fear that they are in trouble. "I didn't understand what was going on," she says. That's where, 14 years ago, a then-13-year-old Erin Merryn first . Before . The only difference is now I am running from him in my dreams" (Merryn 49). Stolen Innocencewas published soon after. Forgiving him did not mean what he did was right, she stressed. Alaska's version of Erin's Law is currently under consideration by the Alaska State Legislature as House Bill 233. Later, just weeks before her seventh birthday, she was raped by the same man. 2023, Charter Communications, all rights reserved. But at age 11, Merryn's second nightmare began. Choosing to forgive has led me to live for today.. Merryn: I reclaimed my voice in the Children's Advocacy Center. To a child who has been told so many threats to stay silent the idea of being taken to a police station can often scare a child. In it, Erin chronicles how she cultivated the strength to face her abuser and eventually found relief from years of emotional restlessness, while also igniting the beginnings of a new fearless journey. Erin Merryn is among the many that came across the story. You seem incredibly resilient. How did you find this voice? February 7, 2023 by Cindy Erin Merryn is a Global Advocate for Child Sex Abuse Prevention For years, Erin Merryn was too scared to speak up about sexual abuse. She wasn't always successful. From the age of 11 to 13, I was repeatedly sexually abused at the hands of a family member, an older cousin, she said. Visit sheriffalerts.com to find out if there are sex offenders in your area. She was abused. (See Gary Glitter's sex scandal.). Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. "(It) brings me back to remembering being six-years-old being abused. The woman behind the bill, Erin Merryn visited Paul V. Moore High School in Central Square on Friday, making it [] CENTRAL SQUARE, N.Y. (WSYR-TV) Erin's Law its now in 37 states . The brilliant minds behind putting in place a center that had a home away from home feeling to give children a sense of security and comfort.At thirteen was the age I walked through the CAC. She came to me after I had been abused for two years and told me words I never expected to hear, that she too was being abused by the same family member. Maryland is the latest state, joining the crusade last month. Erin Merryn's memoir is about how her life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted."I thought when the abuse stopped I could move on with my life. I always feared he would come back. She also pointed out the real loss of innocence for a child is when they are sexually abused and nothing is done about it. Jill Burke is a former writer and columnist for Alaska Dispatch News. Choosing to forgive has led me to live for today. Says Merryn: "[Ashley] made me pinky promise not to say anything. You have permission to edit this article. In December 2010 I was voted News Maker of the year for the Daily Herald.She earned her masters degree in Social Work and is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, AnUnimaginableAct, Bailey No Ordinary Cat & The Diary of a Cat Named Carrot. Here's how to protect your kids from online predators. When Merryn eventually confided in Ashley about what had happened, her friend was not surprised; in fact, the scene was depressingly familiar to her. The case never went to trial, and Brian received some counseling, but no punishment. The cousin used the same tactic as her first abuser telling her no one would believe her and there was no proof. MORE: Monmouth U. faces federal sexual assault case. Senator Gillibrand on the federal version of Erin's Law to give federal funding to the law, and in December 2015 President Obama signed the federal version of Erin's Law under the Every Student Succeeds Act. When I look at you, I see nothing but scum. Did you ever wonder, or ever ask him, why he did what he did? Eleven states have passed the legislation. Merryn's family, including her two sisters, moved to another neighborhood in the same town when Merryn was 8, and she stopped seeing Ashley. After reading that letter, a switch flipped inside Erin. Winds NW at 5 to 10 mph. Because so often, people that are being abused do not report it until theyre in their 30s, 40s and 50s cause nobody ever gave them the message onhow tospeak up and tell, Merryn said. Merryn advocates for sexual abuse victims. I went to bed night after night crying into my pillow having nightmares, and keeping my secrets locked away in my childhood diary., Merryn found her voice at 13 when her younger sister said the words shell never forget: Brians gross!. Then, Erin said she told her family too. On this Wikipedia the language links are at the top of the page across from the article title. He got us quiet and continued to get away with it. Through her personal diary, written during the years of her abuse, Erin shares her journey through pain and confusion to inner strength and, ultimately, forgiveness. So, she forgave him. As an adult, she's reclaimed the voice her. [5] The revelation caused tension in the family. Erin Merryn's memoir is about how her life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted."I thought when the abuse stopped I could move on with my life. She was afraid she would be a burden to her cousin and that no one would believe her. We simply cannot stand by and allow these innocent kids to feel ashamed and live in fear at the hands of their abuser. The bill had already passed the House . She lives in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. EN RU CN DE ES. I really open lawmakers' eyes when I share this with them. Alaska Dispatch: Do you think most lawmakers meaningfully comprehend the issue of sexual abuse? Was this just bad luck? The law was passed in a number of states,[7] with New York becoming the 37th in 2019. I was abused. I continued to write him because I wanted answers. She has appeared on Oprah, Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, TLC documentary Breaking the Silence, CBS This Morning, Katie Couric, Tamaron Hall, 700 Club, and over 200 local media stations. I just wanted to get it over with.She was a forensic interviewer who had been trained to interview children who had reported abuse. So I stayed silent. Victims of abuse know their perpetrators 80% to 90% of the time, says David Finkelhor, director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. The Children's Advocacy Center of Northwest Cook County, Ill. (there are 900 of these centers across America in every state), helped give me the courage in my forensic interview after my sister and I broke our silence to tell what had happened. Alaska Dispatch: When you decided to confront and start corresponding with your cousin, how did it go at first? Merryn is a national spokesperson for the National Children's Alliance, becoming the first survivor of child sexual abuse that went through a Children's Advocacy Center to speak on national television about her experience.[1]. It was a detailed account of how an officer came to her school to talk about stranger danger. (2012) Fox News Self - Author of 'An Unimaginable Act'. The voice that was silenced for so long. Anyone who has felt victimized, ashamed, isolated, and silenced by their abusers will receive a road-map in the book for self-discovery, forgiveness, and empowerment to overcome trauma and live fully and fearlessly for today. The first episode began on a warm May night in 1991. Read more about Erins Law at www.erinslaw.org, or about Erin herself at www.erinmerryn.net. Its word for word my diary from the ages of 10 until my senior year of high school. Visiting Alaska this week, Erin Merryn is a long way from home, and even farther from the torturous past she endured as a sexually abused child. Teaching kids the differences between safe and unsafe touch, safe and unsafe secrets, how to report this to a safe adult and to keep reporting it if your abuse does not end, said Merryn. He sat down in front of Merryn and put his finger to his lips signaling her to remain quiet. You will eventually hear about this law being passed in all 50 states, and I plan on one day taking it and making it international, said Erin. Two years later, though,whenErin was 11, she said her older teenage cousin started abusing her too. JANESVILLE, Wis. (WMTV) - Illinois woman Erin Merryn spoke in Wisconsin Wednesday, pushing the state to pass the law in her namesake that aims to protect children and prevent child sexual abuse. Again, she started having trouble in school, becoming distant and withdrawn. The day I left that place I took a piece of my life back, and that was my voice. But Ashley begged her not to say anything because Richard had told her they would "lose the house" if the girls told anyone. Unthinkable acts. He'd conditioned and kept me silent for two years, so he knew he could get away with that behavior, even with so many people around. In 2009 Texas passed a similar law but it was only a task force which did not mandate students be taught personal body safety, making Illinois the first state to require personal body safety education by law. A place I went to with my eleven year old sister and mother. After it was republished by Health Communications in early 2005, she began traveling the nation telling her story about the sexual abuse she endured at hundreds of high schools, colleges, sexual assault centers, child abuse conferences and community events. Merryn now had a duty as a big sister to protect her younger sibling. She is an activist against child sexual abuse. It was just the beginning of a long journey. I also tell parents don't give childrens private parts pet names. She was also afraid she would lose her innocence. Read more Erin Elizabeth heard over the years from 11-13 "Nobody will believe you, you have no proof, you will destroy our large extended family, this is our secret don't tell anyone." Author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today She kept quiet, but behavior problems soon followed. The first abuser, our neighbor, is someone I think who did this to any girl he had access to. Do you still stay in contact with him? Therapists (and) an amazing school psychologist in high school really helped me heal. As a result, she has been interviewed by many major news organizations and TV programs beginning in 2006, on Good Morning America, Oprah, CNN, Today Show, Fox, Katie Couric, Nightline, TLC, OWN, MSNBC, People Magazine, Time Magazine, Glamour Magazine, USA Today, London Times, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and dozens more local media. Merryn said the abuse only stopped because her family moved away. Did anything make you an attractive target, or particularly vulnerable? The law has now passed in 37 states. She is dedicated to taking the stigma and shame away from sexual abuse and giving survivors the courage to speak up as she has. Here's a glimpse of her life and why she's on a quest for social change. I pull out my sixth grade DARE card and tell lawmakers I knew the eight ways to say "no" to drugs and have never tried even a cigarette and I am nearly 30 years old. I didnt want to talk to anyone about this. They talked for hours about what had happened, and the next day told their parents about their shared horror. Sorry, there are no recent results for popular commented articles. In 2010, Merryn helped create Erin's Law, which was the first law to be passed in the U.S. that required children to be taught sexual abuse prevention in school. It wasnt until Erin was 13 and found out the same thing was happening to her little sister (then age 11), that she decided she needed to speak out. She was taught how to ride out a tornado, instructed in the eight steps for turning down illegal drugs, and told how to react to a friendly stranger who might try to abduct her. But her nightmare was just beginning. By speaking up even when family is against the idea, it is freedom for a survivor and allows them to reclaim a piece of their lives back. Im very concerned about the possibility of grooming or the losing the innocence of our young children. I just figured I told my mom, and I never had to talk about this again. The two families have ceased having contact. We live in a society that keeps it hushed and (there is) so much taboo around it; people are afraid to speak up and say this happened to them. Details Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. (Slaven Vlasic/Getty Images) CAC The place Erin Merryn broke her silence The Children's Advocacy Center of Northwest Cook County Illinois In 1998 seventy five thousand six hundred and forty seven abused children were seen in one hundred and thirty nine Children's Advocacy Centers in America. That happened until I was 13. Eventually though the conversation has to shift and that question that I will never forget. She is the founder of Erin's Law, which requires public schools to teach children personal body safety on the prevention of child sexual abuse. Then something happened that no one saw coming: he confessed. My name is Erin Merryn and I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. Children learn all kinds of safety lessons in schools, like how to deal with natural disasters, fires and strangers. Merryn: There is so much shame and stigma attached to sexual abuse. The instruction will be provided by a school nurse who has completed professional development sexual abuse and assault awareness and prevention. Merryn: I was terrified. It was the first federal bill passed funding sexual abuse prevention education. That is just (in) America. A safe touch could be a high five or hug and an unsafe touch is someone touching you in the areas covered by your swimsuit, or your private parts, Merryn said. Children must be taught to tell a trusted adult if anyone touches their private parts. My question to hotel or motel management would be, Why not tell? Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. 7Erin Merryn is a Woman of the Year because"She's taken her personal crusade and turned it into a public one. Instead I am still running from Brian. So be careful sending little Tommy for ice at the machine down the hall and inform teens who often book motels after prom. One thing my abusers kept telling me was that I had no proof that they were hurting me, so why would anyone believe me? CBN News Self - Children's Advocate. Its somebody they know and trust.. "Growing up in the suburbs of Chicago, I met my best friend in kindergarten. But instead of telling everyone to vote against it, she told everyone to vote in support of this bill. Merryn believes more can be done to ensure children also learn how learn how to protect themselves from sexual predators. I also give lots of insight and resources to parents in my third book An Unimaginable Act on warning sings to look for like bed wetting, wearing extra layers of clothes, avoiding a certain person, not wanting to be around them when they had no problem before, academic changes in school, depression, withdrawal, nightmares, aggression; acting out sexually, she said. [3], She graduated from Schaumburg High School in 2004[4] and earned a Bachelor of Social Work from Western Illinois University in 2008. Last week the law passed in two more states, Virginia and Wyoming, bringing the total to 34. Thirty-seven states have passed Erins Law and Merryn has tried three times in seven years to get the bill passed in Ohio. Erin Merryn, survivor of sexual abuse as a child and the driving force behind Erin's Law, speaks to an auditorium full of students at Metamora Township High School last Monday, March 12. Im glad he gets body boundaries and safety and Ill be pounding it into his head as long as I can. She is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for . My abuse first happened at weeks shy of my seventh birthday by a neighbor it went on until age 8 and a half. I will fight alongside Erin and the advocates right here in our community until the day that this lifesaving legislation finally becomes law.. Sorry, there are no recent results for popular videos. She was honored for her efforts in 2012 as one of Glamour Magazines 2012 Women of the Year. Unfortunately for many survivors they never see their perpetrators held accountable. I finally got, after seven months, what I had been looking for: an apology. Erin Merryn (born February 2, 1985) is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, An Unimaginable Act, Bailey No Ordinary Cat, and The Diary of a Cat Named Carrot. Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. After her parents decided to move Erin's abuse ended but only brought her that much closer to her next abuser, an older teenage cousin who lived . IG: The_Cat_Named_Carrot.Ellen is Carrot's biggest fan. Two days later, their cousin was brought into the police station. Her courage breaking her silence allowed me to take a stand for both of us and be brave and tell her we can't keep this a secret, that we have to tell our parents. Erin Merryn, the bill's namesake and a survivor of sexual abuse, said she is frustrated by the governor's slow response to sign it into law. One day, a particular entry she wrote caught her eye. Nightmares. It was so brutal I thought I was dying, Merryn, Glamour magazines 2012 Woman of the Year, recalled in an interview with the Asbury Park Press. Erin has spoken at over 250 CAC events.In 2008 she began writing legislators to require personal body safety be taught to kids in school. However, during the hearing Tuesday,Ohio State Sen. Sandra OBrien, R-Ashtabula, told Merryn that whileshe was sorry about what happened to her,there will always be evil in the world.. Merryn found her voice at 13 when her younger sister said the words she'll never forget: "Brian's gross!" It turned out cousin Brian was abusing Merryn's little sister, too. (Stacey Wescott / Chicago Tribune) During her quest,. The center provided me a safe place to connect with people who understood unlike my friends in school who did not understand what I had gone through. I often say victims are those who are killed by their attackers. Now she's on a quest to make sure lawmakers across America hear what she has to stay. These monsters are living in all of our backyards., (Tip: Offender Locator is a great app to have on your smart phone.). She is the force behind passing Erin's Law across America. 5 talking about this. If you tell anybody, you will destroy our family, she said.. Erin Merryn born February 2 1985 is the author of Stolen Innocence Living for Today An Unimaginable Act Bailey No Ordinary Cat and The Diary of a Cat. In the end, he was given seven years of probation, 1,000 hours of community service, he attended a two-year sex offender program, and couldnt come within 100 feet of Erin or her sister. Through her speeches and books, Erin is an inspiration to professionals working daily to fight child abuse. 2022 Anchorage Daily News. But at age 11, Merryn's second nightmare began. www.accessonline.com/videos/ellen-degeneres-gives-internet-famous-cat-a-call-in-quarantine, www.rainn.org/news/president-signs-measures-support-state-action-prevent-and-address-child-sexual-abuse, www.accessonline.com/videos/ellen-degeneres-gives-internet-famous-cat-a-call-in-quarantine. At first, it happened when she was babysitting her younger cousins and their older brother would arrive home before their mother. After an evening of playing with Ashley's dollhouse and watching The Little Mermaid, the girls went to bed in Ashley's room. Do not use the phrases good touch and bad touch, says Merryn. At the age of 13, Erin finally got the courage to tell her parents after learning her younger sister was being abused by that same cousin. Today there are more then 700 Children Advocacy Centers in America and millions of children have walked through those doors.Before there were CAC's children were interviewed numerous times in places such as police stations. The words of my cousin began haunting me. No one will believe you, Erin. Merryn says a few months ago, a local . Product Details Resources and Downloads Stolen Innocence Triumphing Over a Childhood Broken by Abuse: A Memoir By Erin Merryn Published by Health Communications Inc EB Distributed by Simon & Schuster LIST PRICE $12.99 PRICE MAY VARY BY RETAILER Get a FREE ebook by joining our mailing list today! In her diary Erin Merryn reveals how her life was transformed one night when, as an eleven-year-old, she was sexually abused in her grandparents condo by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. Childhood sexual abuse survivor turned author, speaker, child advocate and activist Erin Merryn is the founder and president of Erin's Law. Every other headline horrifies the public with another predator taking not just advantage of a child but everything from a child. She shows no signs of fatigue, and she seems ready. More than 90 percent of children who are sexually abused know their attacker, Bucco said with conviction. Every parent should do their homework before they send their kids anywhere. Childhood sexual abuse survivor turned author, speaker, child advocate and activist Erin Merryn is the founder and president of Erin's Law. Erins Law soon caught on nationwide. In a Q&A with Alaska Dispatch before boarding her flight north, Merryn wasn't shy about sharing the difficulties she's experienced, including a suicide attempt, or the one thing that happened to make her finally tell someone she was being hurt. As for Merryn, today shes married, the mother of an almost 2 year old, and expecting her second child in eight weeks. Erin Merryn is a powerful speaker and advocate for countless, faceless children and adults in our country who have similarly suffered sexual abuse. For the next hour I relived as much as I was capable of sharing and just kept finding myself focusing on the large mirror having no clue their was a detective on the other side listening to my entire story and am very glad I did not know. In 2013 Governor Quinn signed Erins Law mandating child sexual abuse education in all Illinois public schools. She broke down and cried and said Erin's Law could have saved her as a child, but instead she only got the message from her abuser, who she knew, and stayed silent. Meanwhile, the survivor who came up with the idea aftersufferingher own personal horrors shared her story with senators Tuesday. It brings it all back to the surface. The school, community organization, day care center, etc. Merryn was also the owner of the viral Instagram cat, Bailey, until he died in December 2018. The only message I got as a child came from my abusers and that was to stay silent or else, she said. The fact that a motel is not telling families that sex offenders are living there should be a crime, Merryn said. Illinois is the first state by law to mandate Erins Law. (2013) CNN Newsroom Self - Child Abuse Survivor. Her friend slept through the assault, and Merryn remained silent. This law could have given me the ability to know I would be believed, that this is not a secret to keep, and how to report it. Acting out both at home and in school, she was given an IEP (Individual Education Plan) and was told she was just going through a phase; that her parents brief separation was the probable root cause. Should someone have known something was wrong sooner? These can seem like powerful forces to go up against. Erin also included the correspondence between her cousin and herself, for readers to also hear the perpetrator's side. Erins Law has now going international with judge in Kerala India requiring Erins Law in the 2023-2024 school year. The look in this mans eyes, the color shirt he was wearing and the last thing he said to me, Dont you dare tell anybody. We live in a society that doesn't want to even address this issue. She was named Glamour Magazine Woman of the Year in 2012 and a People magazine Hero Among Us for her tireless work promoting Erin's Law nationwide with a mission to our keep children safe by educating them about personal body safety. Erin Merryn (born February 2, 1985) is the author of Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, and An Unimaginable Act. Erin's Law, which debuted in Illinois, is now in 37 states and mandates that public schools teach age-appropriate sex abuse prevention to grades as young as pre-K. Merryn said those lessons on . She told them that, growing up in Illinois, she had experienced tornado drills, fire drills and bus drills; was taught about stranger danger and eight ways to say no to drugs through D.A.R.E., but no one ever taught her how to protect herself from sexual abuse and what to do if a family member or friend molested or raped her. Sexually abused and raped from age 6-8 by an adult neighbor Erin was threatened to stay silent by her abuser. Alaska Dispatch: Would something like what you are proposing -- Erin's Law -- have helped you? Buccos bill requires all school districts to incorporate age-appropriate sexual abuse awareness and prevention education in grades preschool through 12 as part of Core Curriculum Content Standards in Comprehensive Health and Physical Education. Merryn worked with U.S. My parents believed me and my cousin Brian confessed to the police, she said. It can happen to anyone, which is why we need to empower our children with their voice to speak up and tell and to not keep it a secret if they are abused. Well, something shocking happened. Gov. One personal safety lesson learned at school that actually helped me in life was "stranger danger." I found (the) freedom and peace I had longed for. He was given probation and counseling., Forgiveness is what set me free, she said. [7] She published her diary detailing her cousin's abuse and her own recovery, relapse and reconciliation in book form as Stolen Innocence in 2005. Bucco introduced Erins Law (S-2145) on May 2. But what followed was depression,an eating disorder and a suicide attempt. So, instead of speaking out, the only person she told her thoughts and feelings to was herself in the form of a little pink diary. At age 17, she attempted suicide. Sunshine and a few clouds. 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